Its Valentine's Day – Lets Be Generous With Our Love

by Christine Sine


It’s Valentine’s Day, to be honest not a celebration that I have ever really approved of. I see it as yet another commercial venture to encourage us to buy and consume more – especially chocolate. I struggle with it a lot because it seems to me that the love we celebrate on this day is the very antithesis of the love of God.  It started out as a religious celebration commemorating the life of St Valentine, one of the early Christian martyrs but today is more a celebration of romantic love and another opportunity for the consumer culture to have us all out there buying lots of chocolates, roses and other gifts that we don’t really need.  I was overwhelmed as I walked through the supermarket yesterday by the array of red flowers, red chocolate boxes and red cup cakes that were strategically placed to jump out at me as I entered the store.  This is not what love is about.

And I struggle because most chocolate is not ethically produced. An article in Huffington post last year states:

According to an investigative report by the BBC, hundreds of thousands of children are being purchased from their parents or outright stolen and then shipped to Ivory Coast, where they are enslaved on cocoa farms. Destitute parents in these poverty-stricken lands sell their children to traffickers believing that they will find honest work in Ivory Coast and send some of their earnings home. The terrible reality is that these children, 11-to-16-years-old but sometimes younger, are forced to do hard manual labor 80 to 100 hours a week. They are paid nothing, receive no education, are under fed, and are often viciously beaten if they try to escape. Most will never see their families again.

But chocolate is good for us and it is easy to ignore its dark underside, especially on a day like this. And love is good for us. My husband Tom sees this as a day to affirm his love for me and for others, something that I always deeply appreciate. And God is a God of love. Affirming love for God, for each other and for God’s world are extremely important.

So what do we do about it? Here are some suggestions:

  1. Start the day by reading Paul’s wonderful description of love in 1 Corinthians 13. Read it in a few different versions (available at
  2. Read some of the wonderful love poems of Christian saints. My favourite is Fall in Love by Father Pedro Arrupe. I also love this reflection on How to Love God by Mother Teresa 
  3. Be generous with your love. The New American Dream suggests rebooting Valentine’s Day as Generosity Day, seeing it not as a day to receive gifts of love but to give them. They suggest saying “yes” every time you are asked for a donation, a handout or a request. Give a $5 tip for a $2 cup of coffee. Bring in lunch for your co-workers. Certainly something to consider.
  4. Be generous with your gratitude. I think this is also a good day to show gratitude to those who love you and whom you love. Make phone calls to friends you have not spoken to for a while. Tell them how much you appreciate them.
  5. Reach out to those who produce your chocolate and other favourite Valentine’s gifts. Watch The Dark Side of Chocolate with a group of friends and consider ways to make a difference in the lives of those who suffer for our indulgences.  

Let me know what you plan to do this Valentine’s day in the spirit of the love of God?

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Stephan Deen February 14, 2014 - 3:20 pm

Thank U for your profound meditation on St. Valentine’s Day. Of course YES to all that U have so beautifully expressed. Some people are lucky in romantic love, and they find loves that last through the years and decades I have not been fortunate in romantic ways of the heart, and I often feel hurt by that deep absence as though there is surely something wrong with me….. But I have always … ALWAYS… felt surrounded by another kind of love: loved by God made real to me by our Holy Savior Jesus, love by my family and so many dear and true friends. And one can almost feel the love that abounds at my pretty home Episcopal Church. It is my frequent prayer that God will give me grace to show compassionate love to all that come into my path– whether they are lovely or not..
Surrounded By Love In Fayetteville, Arkansas, USA

Christine Sine February 14, 2014 - 4:46 pm

Thanks Stephan and Amen

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