This morning’s post comes from Kathy Escobar, a co-pastor at the refuge, an ecletic beautiful faith community in north denver, a mommy of 5 (3 teenagers & twins that are 10), teammate & partner to jose… a writer now & then…a trained spiritual director (one who’s a little on the loud side)…an advocate for my friends in hard places…a cultivator of voca femina, a creative arts site for women to use their voice…an online faculty instructor to make a little extra money here & there…and a group-facilitator-whenever-i-can-be-because-that’s-one-of-my-favorite-things-in-the-whole-world-to-do! they all sort of just blend together and make for one messy life in the trenches with incredibly lovely & amazing & courageous people.
making room for the unexpected
“do not despise the small things” – zechariah 4:10
this past saturday night at the refuge we kicked off the first week of advent. for some friends, this is the long 6 weeks between thanksgiving & new years where even more of life’s loneliness & pain & reality sinks in. for others, it is a happy season where there’s a lot of joy & fun. and a growing group of others, it has become a bit more confusing season where so many things about life & faith re muddled up & maybe not as clear cut as “its Jesus’ birthday, hooray!”
i have come to really appreciate in a deeper way the season of advent & the season of lent in the church calendar. neither were something i celebrated intentionally until 4 years ago when we started the refuge, but each year it causes me to reflect in a deeper way on my faith & the mysteries of Jesus & what it means to walk this downward rocky path of life-this-side-of-heaven. this year we are journeying through advent with a series of conversations focused on “making room for the unexpected.” the season of advent centers around waiting, hoping, anticipating. of living in the tension of what is and what will be. of reflecting on new textures of peace, hope, joy, and love.
one of the tensions i seem to live in a lot in my walk of faith is the one that lies between “expecting too much” and “not expecting anything.” i have this one part of me that wants God to bring simple comfort, ease, pain-free, financial freedom, smoother sailing, and a host of other things that often seem like good ideas because a lot of other people want them too. and then the other part that is closed off, hardened, protected, and doesn’t really expect God to show up for much at all. this kind of black and white thinking is so destructive & probably more subtle in a lot of our spiritual repertoires than many may want to admit.
this holiday season i want to make room for the unexpected, to live in the weird scary vulnerable gray area of faith where we don’t expect too much & end up horridly disappointed but we also don’t shut ourselves off from what could be out of fear & resentment. to do this, i think we may need to possibly:
make room to feel a wider range of emotions. it’s sometimes so easy to get stuck in “all good” or “all bad” but not let ourselves feel a mix of those & everything in between. i’ve come to realize that despite what i may have been taught in a lot of my christian experience, we can feel sadness & joy at the same time. or peace & confusion, fear & courage, and all kinds of other combinations. i do think opening up our range of emotions can make more room for unexpected life.
simplify. oh there’s so much clutter that needs to be cleared in our day-to-day, and even more this time of year where things get faster, busier, full-er, more complicated. this year for me, simplify is more than “less expensive gifts and less parties.” it is about getting back to the basics. peace, joy, hope, love. sure, we can make all of these things complicated, but i also think they can be simple, too. taking deep breaths. laughing. noticing beauty. sitting & talking while not spending a dime. receiving a word of kindness instead of rejecting it. little things that help me center on what matters.
listen & look for God interference. we can get so stuck in the patterns of our day to day that we can miss out on small little God interruptions that i call “God interference.” to me, God interference are moments where God is trying to get our attention in some small or big way to help break the cycle of our busyness, in-grown eyeballs, or being a victim of our circumstances. in Christ-is-born stories in the gospels, i am reminded of how God interfered & interrupted mary and elizabeth’s lives with baby boys they never expected. they responded to these huge, scary interruptions with joy and faith. i wonder what we are doing with the smaller ones in our own lives?
one of my favorite parts of the Jesus story is just how “unexpected” he really was. they were hoping for a strong-powerful-in-the-world’s-eyes messiah. instead, they got a humble servant born as a baby to an unlikely couple in a stinky manger. what the world says Christmas is about is not what Christmas is about.
Jesus came in an unexpected way and seems to still show up in unexpected-contrary-to-the-world ways. in poverty. in sickness. in desperation. in darkness. in the trenches of people’s real lives.
and so even though advent is a time of expectation, i wonder if we need to make more room for the unexpected. to be open to small or big slivers of light & love & peace & joy in places we’re not used to seeing them.
yes, this advent i really want to be open to hope in unexpected places.
God-of-the-unexpected, may we make room for your movement in our lives, our relationships, our neighborhoods, our cities, in the world this advent.